Are you a bad mom??

No, of course you aren't!

Don't even try to think you are.

Not for a second

{for the most part....unless there is abuse, neglect, etc. involved...but we won't get into that.}

I saw a comment that really had me thinking....

"We moms are way too focused on what we DIDN’T do than what we were ABLE to do."
Confessions of a Slacker Mom {in the comments}

do you do this?

does this make you FEEL like you are being a "bad" mom?

think about it......

Today.... {as of 1:00 pm}

I didn't:

- teach my child the alphabet, all her colors, how to read, draw, write, or all her shapes. {we are working on them all....she knows some but not all.}

-make a big {or nutritious} breakfast for my family. {the child had a gogurt and a few bites of an apple...i pick my battles}

-do the dishes {yet, there is still time}

-go for a walk or some other adventure with the child

-do an fun amazing art project with her

-clean anything {like i said...theres still time...it's not bad at all}

-make my bed

-get started on a project for the new year

But....I DID....

-wake at a decent time {8 am...to the alarm of the child}

-make sure the child had some food and snacks at all the appropriate times {they were healthy too!}

-shower and get ready for the day {although i am in sweats :)}

-get the child dressed and ready for the day

-{do} have plans to make dinner {i have every night for over a week!}

-give the child hugs and kisses

-help the child with her games that she plays

-played along with the child as she was the mail lady, delivering packages

-get on facebook to update a status and check others' statuses

-check all the bogs that I follow

-investigate and download preschool printables {can't print until amazon delivers ink!}

-start...then finish this blog post....all in ONE day

-watch at least one movie with the child

-read to the child

-told her I love her---at least three times

-put the child down for a nap

-watch the baby bounce around in my belly

-think about the things I would like to get done {crafts, projects, quilts, meals}

-pin a bunch of stuff on pinterest

-watch as the child drew on her easel

SO....

If you look at the things I did do today...and only those ;)

does that make me a bad mom?

Am I not fullfilling my duties?

sure, today has been a lazy day {maybe I should have written this post tomorrow when we have plans to go to the library.....lol}

but laundry is basically all caught up, bathrooms are clean, we are all fed and clothed

sure, we watch tv, we horse around, we play games.

most importantly, there is love in our home.

the child watches all I do and mimics everything I do too....so I take that as a sign that she kinda wants to be like me.

{i'm pretty awesome in her eyes, just saying}

She doesn't care if we don't always have some activity or elaborate adventure planned.

she is happy "hanging out" with mommy or daddy

We moms need to find confidence in the things that we DO.

We need to find joy in those things

We need to know that we don't have to do everything in order to be a "good" mom

we shouldn't be discouraged if we aren't what we or the world will think of as a "super mom"

we are amazing in our own ways.

we are great moms who live in the real world of modern day parenting.

we aren't perfect

we have chorses that need to be done, unfinished projects, children with bed heads, or to-do lists that are pages long.

but we are constantly working on ourselves, our families, our jobs, our crafts, or our houses.

if we could do it all in one day....then what else would there be to do?

Hopefully, this year we can find that confidence in ourselves as mom's an not be discouraged if things aren't perfect. That's how we learn, we grow and become better.